I am not going to go into any philosophical stuff. Just had a pep talk from a friend today! It is weird, is it because I am a Cancerian that I need pep talks all the time, or is it because I have my mood swings or is it because I underestimate myself, whatever it is, professionally or personally, I behave much better when I have a pep talk from someone, or could be a really good song, or a nice movie, inspirational book, it gives me a real boost in life. The effect lasts till I encounter another negative experience, person, phone call, or some incident which has all the good, happy, positive material stored in my brain, go down the drain. I don’t know where that drain is.
Well, I have learned this through experience, and I promise my sister, that I will never have a best friend! But how and why do I reach this stage of becoming best friends with someone, and one day out of the blue, getting stabbed in the back! Ouch, that hurts!
Acquaintance/Neighbor/Guests/Friends Friend is all under the same category.
Friend/Pastime Friend/Needy Friend/Dependent Friend/Mandatory Friend also fall in the same category
Best Friends/Crying Shoulders/Pat on the back/No Sorrys or Thank yous/ No Egos/Siblings or any relative could become a Best friend.
So basically, it takes levels to come to this stage…and the level drops in a second without any freaking efforts to this….
Backstabbers/Jealous/Hurtful/Egoist/Snobs/Chauvinists who can all get you on your knees, make your faces droop to the ground, that it becomes so obvious that you are hurt. Ugh!
So how do I become a victim of this abysmal deception??
A few things I guess. I am sure many others can add to their personal experiences.
> I always tend to stick around negative people hoping, someday they will change, they will realize!
> I ignore the deserving ones and trust wrong people blindly.
> I just cannot accept the way people are, try to change them, the World will end but that won’t happen! No, Nay, Never!
> I cannot pull down people or drop to their level of sarcasm. Why God, isn’t that what nicer people call being diplomatic? Hmm, hmm??
> Why do I struggle to be perfect (like they pretend to be) when I know I am not!? No one is…that is the universal truth.
> I expect and expect and expect to receive as much as I give….even if its candies!
> I cannot forget or forgive.. Proves I am a human yet again…Ha! And you thought I was a…
> Can the real friend please STAND UP??? Or wave, or hit me with a bird, or a donut!?
> I am so effing loyal!! I am not trying to praise myself here….Pinky promise!
> I guess I have to lie sometimes, for their own good, I must become a Truth warrior! \m/
> I am full of free advice. For sure no one needs my advice for their decisions unless I were a lawyer or doctor….I am none! Whoopsie!
> I talk so much and listen so less…Err..Yes, I do
Oh my God, so am I the one at fault here? Well, back to Square 1 …….
People judge, people scorn, try to belittle you, but you don’t have to be what they think you are….if I just turn the above comments into positive ones, I can learn my lessons quicker, become a better person. In the end, if I treat myself as I would like to be treated I will have the most effective relationship with the most important person who can be my best friend! No points for guessing! ME!!!